Know that those who were once deemed worthy of your energy/ access to your life can someday not be worthy of it.. The what ifs with now distant/ once close friends also suck.. Do not feel insignificant bc of unreciprocated relationships. But always know your place and when it has turned one-sided.. And please!! Do not feel pathetic— this just shows how much care you have for your people. Only thing is some of “your people” are only your people for a season. Acceptance.
It’s more than okay to grieve the loss of those friendships or relationships. However, do not prolong that pain —move forward after learning what you were meant to. Recognize that there is not one single person or situation that defines you or determines your value.
Knowing you won’t ever give that power to anyone ever again to affect your self image— because of the self affirming nature in you.
Let that grow exponentially..
Do not reminisce so much on the past that you forget to embrace the present. Hone in on all feelings of fear that may arise with new potential friendships.. That anxiety is there to protect you.
Stay open and receptive to new, better connections and acknowledge any red flags you notice within any relationship and place them accordingly. Please enforce boundaries with anyone who is not your cup of tea anymore, who approaches life / conflicts too differently than you, doesn’t treat strangers/ their own friends well, etc.
What I would love for you to continue to perfect is being more selective with who you allow in your life.
The truth is people are fickle. This trauma could very well happen all over again but atleast this time- you’re better equipped to get back up and pick yourself up quicker.
Love you – you got this! ❤
Peace of Ruta 
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